Up from the Country!
This week's blog is from Neha Gupta who recently moved to Dublin from Cashel in Tipperary - here's how she found the experience....
I'm a country girl at heart. I have lived in a small town all my life with a population of only 2000 people. I know almost everyone in my town and my life was smooth and easy until the day I found out about my new job in Dublin city! I was excited but I was also very scared. I was going to move to a big, strange city where I knew nobody. The fear of loneliness was killing me inside - I had no choice but to face it!
Dublin is a very big and busy city. Nobody has time for anyone, compared to my town where everyone always has time for little chats. The culture and atmosphere of a city is totally different from a small town and you notice that the minute to set foot in the place. For country girls like me, big cities are like a whole new world. We are fascinated by small things and forget how to act in a big city! It's tough to fit in with the crowd and people know straight away we are "culchies".
The hardest thing of all is to make new friends. It is so hard to meet new people and the bigger the city the more difficult it is. I have a lot of friends in my home town but when I moved up to Dublin city I knew no one. I was home sick for a month. I didn't know where to go or how to make friends. I made a few friends in work but we were not that close. I used to see them at work and chat a little but that was it. I share a house up here with four other girls and because they all knew each other very well it was hard for me to fit in.
I hated Dublin, I wanted to pack my bags and move back home and I think it's the same story for many people who move to Dublin for either college or work. So how do you make new friends and enjoy city life? Well firstly get to know your housemates and work colleagues more by spending some time with them. Go to every work party and if people from work are going out for a few drinks, don't be shy, join them. It's the best way to get to know them. I didn't go to any work get togethers at the start as I used to get the first bus home after work every Friday!
After about two months, I joined my work colleagues for a few drinks after work and I'm so glad I did. I got know them better and I had a really good time. I also started to spend more time with my housemates by watching TV with them and the odd cinema night out. I then got to meet new people through them. We go to pubs and clubs where I meet their friends and friends of friends. So it is really important to socialise with your work or college colleagues.
One night one of my friend's told me about a dating site - MaybeFriends.com but I just laughed it off. After about a week though I was sitting at home and decided to give Maybefriends.com a shot. I filled in my profile and the next day I had got 3 flirts! I got all excited and I flirted back and without me even realising it I was on the site every night after work - it can be really addictive! I have got to know a lot of people through the site and made quite a few friends both men and women - many of them in the same situation as me. I'm due to go on my first date from the site next week!
Moving to a big city is tough but we can turn the challenge into a fun situation by socialising both on and off line - so don't turn the big move into a horrible experience, get out and make new friends and enjoy the buzzing life the city is offering!
I'm a country girl at heart. I have lived in a small town all my life with a population of only 2000 people. I know almost everyone in my town and my life was smooth and easy until the day I found out about my new job in Dublin city! I was excited but I was also very scared. I was going to move to a big, strange city where I knew nobody. The fear of loneliness was killing me inside - I had no choice but to face it!
Dublin is a very big and busy city. Nobody has time for anyone, compared to my town where everyone always has time for little chats. The culture and atmosphere of a city is totally different from a small town and you notice that the minute to set foot in the place. For country girls like me, big cities are like a whole new world. We are fascinated by small things and forget how to act in a big city! It's tough to fit in with the crowd and people know straight away we are "culchies".
The hardest thing of all is to make new friends. It is so hard to meet new people and the bigger the city the more difficult it is. I have a lot of friends in my home town but when I moved up to Dublin city I knew no one. I was home sick for a month. I didn't know where to go or how to make friends. I made a few friends in work but we were not that close. I used to see them at work and chat a little but that was it. I share a house up here with four other girls and because they all knew each other very well it was hard for me to fit in.
I hated Dublin, I wanted to pack my bags and move back home and I think it's the same story for many people who move to Dublin for either college or work. So how do you make new friends and enjoy city life? Well firstly get to know your housemates and work colleagues more by spending some time with them. Go to every work party and if people from work are going out for a few drinks, don't be shy, join them. It's the best way to get to know them. I didn't go to any work get togethers at the start as I used to get the first bus home after work every Friday!
After about two months, I joined my work colleagues for a few drinks after work and I'm so glad I did. I got know them better and I had a really good time. I also started to spend more time with my housemates by watching TV with them and the odd cinema night out. I then got to meet new people through them. We go to pubs and clubs where I meet their friends and friends of friends. So it is really important to socialise with your work or college colleagues.
One night one of my friend's told me about a dating site - MaybeFriends.com but I just laughed it off. After about a week though I was sitting at home and decided to give Maybefriends.com a shot. I filled in my profile and the next day I had got 3 flirts! I got all excited and I flirted back and without me even realising it I was on the site every night after work - it can be really addictive! I have got to know a lot of people through the site and made quite a few friends both men and women - many of them in the same situation as me. I'm due to go on my first date from the site next week!
Moving to a big city is tough but we can turn the challenge into a fun situation by socialising both on and off line - so don't turn the big move into a horrible experience, get out and make new friends and enjoy the buzzing life the city is offering!
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